The holiday season is upon us—a time for celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and ending the month with New Year’s Eve. For many, it’s a season of joy: gathering with friends and family, indulging in delicious holiday treats, decorating our homes inside and out, and driving around to see magical Christmas lights.
But for some, this time of year carries a bittersweet note. If you've lost someone close to you—whether recently or years ago—the holidays can be a difficult reminder of their absence. For me, it's my mom.
My mom and I shared a special tradition every December. Though she lived in Maine and I was in New Jersey, she always made the trip down at the beginning of the month to spend a week with me. My home was always fully decorated before her arrival—inside and out—because I knew how much she loved the lights and the holiday decorations.
Our week together was filled with driving around to see Christmas lights, chatting endlessly, and spending time with her New Jersey friends. Before heading home, she’d leave presents under my tree with strict instructions not to open them until Christmas morning. Sometimes, she’d even hide an extra-special gift somewhere in the house and not tell me about it until Christmas morning.
My first Christmas without her was one of the hardest times in my life. I didn’t want to put up decorations or even celebrate. It felt pointless without her. But then I thought about how much she loved the season and how disappointed she’d be if I didn’t carry on our traditions.
One year, jokingly, she told me, "If I die, make sure my urn has a good view of your Christmas tree. I just love looking at it—it’s my favorite." Remembering that made me chuckle and gave me the strength to decorate again. Now, every Christmas, I put up my tree in her honor. I find peace and warmth in the quiet moments, sitting by the lights and remembering her. It feels as though she’s with me, sharing in the joy of the season.
If you’re facing a difficult holiday season without a loved one—whether it’s your first year without them or you’ve been missing them for many years—I want you to know you’re not alone. Even if it’s just a small tree or a single decoration, put something up in their honor. Let it become a new tradition between you and the angel who’s watching over you. Take time to reflect, remember the good times, and allow yourself to feel their presence in the holiday memories you cherish.
They would want you to celebrate and find joy. Honor them by doing just that. 💖
At Budderstown Gifts, we offer sentimental gifts to help bring comfort during the holiday season. One of our customer favorites (and mine too!) is the Angel Memorial Ornament - Keepsake from Loved One's Clothing.
This special ornament allows you to include a small piece of your loved one’s clothing to create a beautiful and comforting angel. It’s perfect for hanging on your tree, an ornament stand, or even a special spot in your home.
Let’s celebrate the season together—holding our loved ones close in memory and in our hearts.
